2025-6-1
I came across something on a blog, The FAQyMe Gene. The author of this website, a clergy abuse victim, asks:
“F#%# Why Me?”
So many victims are abused more than once. They are targeted more than once. Victims are targeted by more than one priest even. (See this blog post.)
You won’t really feel safe until you figure out what this invisible signal is and how to remove it.
You feel like there is some invisible signal on your back that says you would be a good victim. You won’t really feel safe until you figure out what this invisible signal is and how to remove it. So you endlessly ask yourself this question, replay scenarios, try to get answers. You want to protect yourself.
One reason closure can be so hard is that you just don’t feel safe.
One reason closure can be so hard is that you just don’t feel safe. You meet a charismatic priest and you have a fight or flight response. You question who he really is. You suspect ulterior motives. You know, personally and painfully, that predators are often charismatic, and you cannot think your way out of anxiety and alarm.